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Most individuals are reactive. First; emotionally (they will easily "pick up" on the mood signal of an articulate, strong leader -- for better or worse). Second; intellectually (they will follow the course set by a commander who is perceived as certain of his or her direction). A leader sets the mood and the plan of action. As a leader, you are not permitted to let your spirits flag, to express doubts, or to appear defeated in the presence of your charges. These feelings are luxuries which can only be afforded by those who follow you, or those who follow others.
Yes, every captain, every chief is a Human Being, with moments of insecurity, doubt, introspection, uncertainty and battle fatigue -- but to be excellent in your command, you must discipline yourself from visibly indulging in these moments. You must either learn to act, to control your internal commentary and to be absent or inaccessible when you may run the risk of planting the seeds of doubt, fear or lawlessness amongst those who are so prone to mirroring your mood.
Taking command, whether of a company, a team, a military squadron or a project requires tremendous emotional self-mastery. You are responsible for setting the mood and the tone of those who have entrusted you with some aspect of their fortunes and their futures. You will learn to play the role - but you will have to withstand frequent feelings of isolation or loneliness.
Do not lose sight of the fact that your responsibilities are far greater than merely taking care of yourself. You are responsible to lead, but you are a servant of those who have chosen to join your ranks.
If you are truly worthy, you will master yourself, as this is necessary in order to encourage, inspire and motivate others.
Thursday, August 11, 2011
Monday, August 08, 2011
Your Life Is A Business: Plan. Prepare. Decide. Go.
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It would seem to be so simple. Be prepared. Plan. Don't panic. Be vigilant and proactive --- don't be passive and reactive. Don't wait until you're desperate to make decisions - your decisions (not your knee-jerk responses) are your destiny. Even in those things that are not within your control; you CAN control your response. Business success is attained through clarity, decisiveness, focus and tenacity. Again?
Those (above) are the realities of business success. If you picture your life as a business -- a journey where you must first define what your destination will be, and where you must secondly take the incremental steps (forward or sideways, but not backward) and make the incremental decisions that will bring you there. That's right - not "take you there."
By the way, during the longer journey, expect some detours, delays and problems. Permit yourself to course-correct as necessary. Adjusting your trajectory is a part of living in the real world -- it is not an admission of foolishness or weakness. It's not about ego. It's about You Go.
Soldier on with the business of your life, friends, comrades and colleagues.
Douglas E Castle
http://TakingCommand.blogspot.com
http://www.TNNWC.com
It would seem to be so simple. Be prepared. Plan. Don't panic. Be vigilant and proactive --- don't be passive and reactive. Don't wait until you're desperate to make decisions - your decisions (not your knee-jerk responses) are your destiny. Even in those things that are not within your control; you CAN control your response. Business success is attained through clarity, decisiveness, focus and tenacity. Again?
Those (above) are the realities of business success. If you picture your life as a business -- a journey where you must first define what your destination will be, and where you must secondly take the incremental steps (forward or sideways, but not backward) and make the incremental decisions that will bring you there. That's right - not "take you there."
By the way, during the longer journey, expect some detours, delays and problems. Permit yourself to course-correct as necessary. Adjusting your trajectory is a part of living in the real world -- it is not an admission of foolishness or weakness. It's not about ego. It's about You Go.
Soldier on with the business of your life, friends, comrades and colleagues.
Douglas E Castle
http://TakingCommand.blogspot.com
http://www.TNNWC.com
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Wednesday, August 03, 2011
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You must exude self-confidence if you choose to be a leader. People admire decisiveness and strength of conviction even more than they do wisdom and diplomacy in a leader. It's true. To command others, they must be coldly convinced that you are absolutely resolute in your goals, beliefs and personal identity.
The majority of the populace does not want to be inundated with research, choices and philosophy -- people eschew this cerebration for "bottom-line" leadership. They want to follow someone who has (presumably) done all of that work for them and is prepared to forge ahead immediately.
Self-confidence is manifest in simple, methodical, bold words and action steps. Wavering is (with the occasional exception of a Bill Clinton) seen as weakness or deceitfulness.
This whole phenomenon steps from a deep, behavioral propensity on the part of most people to be led by a parental figure, despite their idle protestations to the contrary.
To Take Command, you must be a leader in every aspect. You must be, and you must appear self-confident. Your body language, tone of voice, passion, posture and mood serves to stimulate the reactive minds of your charges or constituents.
You may have your doubts, but you, as a leader, and a commander-in-chief, do not have the Human luxury of expressing uncertainty, or of hesitation.
Some interesting material follows for sharpening your leadership skill-set.
Douglas E Castle
You may enjoy these links to other sites, as well:
TAKING COMMAND!
SENDING SIGNALS!
INFOSPHERE BUSINESS ALERTS AND INTELLIGENCE
BUSINESS AND PROJECT PLANNING
You must exude self-confidence if you choose to be a leader. People admire decisiveness and strength of conviction even more than they do wisdom and diplomacy in a leader. It's true. To command others, they must be coldly convinced that you are absolutely resolute in your goals, beliefs and personal identity.
The majority of the populace does not want to be inundated with research, choices and philosophy -- people eschew this cerebration for "bottom-line" leadership. They want to follow someone who has (presumably) done all of that work for them and is prepared to forge ahead immediately.
Self-confidence is manifest in simple, methodical, bold words and action steps. Wavering is (with the occasional exception of a Bill Clinton) seen as weakness or deceitfulness.
This whole phenomenon steps from a deep, behavioral propensity on the part of most people to be led by a parental figure, despite their idle protestations to the contrary.
To Take Command, you must be a leader in every aspect. You must be, and you must appear self-confident. Your body language, tone of voice, passion, posture and mood serves to stimulate the reactive minds of your charges or constituents.
You may have your doubts, but you, as a leader, and a commander-in-chief, do not have the Human luxury of expressing uncertainty, or of hesitation.
Some interesting material follows for sharpening your leadership skill-set.
Douglas E Castle
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You may enjoy these links to other sites, as well:
TAKING COMMAND!
SENDING SIGNALS!
INFOSPHERE BUSINESS ALERTS AND INTELLIGENCE
BUSINESS AND PROJECT PLANNING
"Man...It's getting awfully hot in here!"
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Thursday, July 21, 2011
Phones Are Power Tools And Positioning Props - Use Them Intelligently
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How you use the phone (to communicate with the person on the other side of the conversation --- and to make an impression to those people standing about you, photographing you, or waiting for an audience with you.
Some basic guidelines to power phone use follow:
1. Always stand when speaking on the phone. It makes your voice clearer, more energetic, deeper, richer (your lungs are like bellows my Take Command Fellows!) and more resonant.
You will feel brighter, and more decisive. Open up those lungs, re-energize those chakras, and stand, or pace. Toss your head back just a bit. too.
2. As you stand , let the people around you feel your aura of energy, your importance, your power (pacing like a lion), your magnetism, your larger-than-life presence. Occasionally make cold, direct eye contact for a moment with these people while you converse.
That's all there is to it, Commanders.
Faithfully,
Douglas E Castle
http://aboutdouglascastle.blogspot.com/
http://takingcommand.blogspot.com/
http://sendingsignals.blogspot.com/
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How you use the phone (to communicate with the person on the other side of the conversation --- and to make an impression to those people standing about you, photographing you, or waiting for an audience with you.
Some basic guidelines to power phone use follow:
1. Always stand when speaking on the phone. It makes your voice clearer, more energetic, deeper, richer (your lungs are like bellows my Take Command Fellows!) and more resonant.
You will feel brighter, and more decisive. Open up those lungs, re-energize those chakras, and stand, or pace. Toss your head back just a bit. too.
2. As you stand , let the people around you feel your aura of energy, your importance, your power (pacing like a lion), your magnetism, your larger-than-life presence. Occasionally make cold, direct eye contact for a moment with these people while you converse.
That's all there is to it, Commanders.
Faithfully,
Douglas E Castle
http://aboutdouglascastle.blogspot.com/
http://takingcommand.blogspot.com/
http://sendingsignals.blogspot.com/
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Monday, July 18, 2011
Prepare To Negotiate: Conduct Research, Gather Intelligence And Leverage What You've Learned.
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All social and business interaction involves the art and science of negotiation.
Sometimes it is subtle -- sometimes it is obvious.
But elements of negotiation are embedded in every aspect of persuasion, communication, teamwork, leadership, and even battle. There is no escaping the need to master negotiating skills.
Before concerning yourself with your posturing, positioning and poise, and before even considering tactics and strategies to put an agreement or a deal together, you MUST do your research and you must gather intelligence on all aspects of the things, entities, concepts and persons which or who may be involved in the negotiation process. One of your most powerful negotiating tools is simply information. The more, the better. The better, the stronger.
Be armed with deep-level factual information before you even consider entering into either that employment interview or that conference room. You'll start out with a significant advantage.
Common sense? Not really. Most unskilled negotiators, i.e., people, in general, do their discovering and learning during the course of negotiating instead of in advance of the negotiations. This starts them at an immediate disadvantage if their counterparts are better-informed.
As my third-grade teacher used to say, "Do your homework before you go out and play."
And, as a trainful of passengers (mostly traveling salesmen) on a trip to River City, Iowa (from the Broadway Musical, "The Music Man"), once said (in fabulous cadence)..."You've gotta know the territory."
Make it your business to do research and gather intelligence on everything which may be pertinent to the a) the topic or subject about which you are negotiating; b) the entity or company which is "sponsoring" the negotiation (i.e., the owner of the proerty, the company which wants to be acquired, the candidate who wants to obtain your business); and, c) the individual or individuals with whom you will be negotiating...both professionally and personally.
In the matter of negotiations, knowledge is power. The more you know, the more powerful you can be.
No detail which you might discover (such as other bids made, where a particular negotiator went to college, the hobbies of your negotiation counterpart, financial information, previous negotiations with other parties...the CEO's favorite genre of music) is insignificant, or too small to add to your knowledge base.
Not only will this process help you to unearth hidden sensitivities, deadlines, pressures, preferences, and the like; it will make you feel a great deal more self-confident and in control.
If you've done some deep pre-negotiation research and intelligence gathering about the subject matter, the "sponsor," and the cast of negotiating characters ("You were captain of the crew team at Yale! That's great." - and you're off), they will sense this before you even begin to speak -- especially if they are experienced deal-makers and negotiators themselves.
Bottom Line: In negotating anything, prepare before you present.
Faithfully,
Douglas E. Castle http://negotiation1.wordpress.com/ http://aboutdouglascastle.blogspot.com/ http://www.tnnwc.com/
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All social and business interaction involves the art and science of negotiation.
Sometimes it is subtle -- sometimes it is obvious.
But elements of negotiation are embedded in every aspect of persuasion, communication, teamwork, leadership, and even battle. There is no escaping the need to master negotiating skills.
Before concerning yourself with your posturing, positioning and poise, and before even considering tactics and strategies to put an agreement or a deal together, you MUST do your research and you must gather intelligence on all aspects of the things, entities, concepts and persons which or who may be involved in the negotiation process. One of your most powerful negotiating tools is simply information. The more, the better. The better, the stronger.
Be armed with deep-level factual information before you even consider entering into either that employment interview or that conference room. You'll start out with a significant advantage.
Common sense? Not really. Most unskilled negotiators, i.e., people, in general, do their discovering and learning during the course of negotiating instead of in advance of the negotiations. This starts them at an immediate disadvantage if their counterparts are better-informed.
As my third-grade teacher used to say, "Do your homework before you go out and play."
And, as a trainful of passengers (mostly traveling salesmen) on a trip to River City, Iowa (from the Broadway Musical, "The Music Man"), once said (in fabulous cadence)..."You've gotta know the territory."
Negotiation - Do Your Research And Gather Your Intelligence In Advance.
To effectively enter into any negotiation, you must be fully prepared, not only emotionally, but informationally.Make it your business to do research and gather intelligence on everything which may be pertinent to the a) the topic or subject about which you are negotiating; b) the entity or company which is "sponsoring" the negotiation (i.e., the owner of the proerty, the company which wants to be acquired, the candidate who wants to obtain your business); and, c) the individual or individuals with whom you will be negotiating...both professionally and personally.
In the matter of negotiations, knowledge is power. The more you know, the more powerful you can be.
No detail which you might discover (such as other bids made, where a particular negotiator went to college, the hobbies of your negotiation counterpart, financial information, previous negotiations with other parties...the CEO's favorite genre of music) is insignificant, or too small to add to your knowledge base.
Not only will this process help you to unearth hidden sensitivities, deadlines, pressures, preferences, and the like; it will make you feel a great deal more self-confident and in control.
If you've done some deep pre-negotiation research and intelligence gathering about the subject matter, the "sponsor," and the cast of negotiating characters ("You were captain of the crew team at Yale! That's great." - and you're off), they will sense this before you even begin to speak -- especially if they are experienced deal-makers and negotiators themselves.
Bottom Line: In negotating anything, prepare before you present.
Faithfully,
Douglas E. Castle http://negotiation1.wordpress.com/ http://aboutdouglascastle.blogspot.com/ http://www.tnnwc.com/
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Tuesday, July 05, 2011
Negotiation Is The Language Of All Business
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Negotiation has a perjorative connotation, not unlike the one associated with manipulation. Yet, every entrepreneur, leader, corporate executive, professional, academician and consumer who communicates interactively (speaks or otherwise sends signals or suggestions) with another Human Being is engaged in both. The average individual spends most of his or her waking hours negotiating.
It is frightening to think about.
"Negotiation is the language of all business. It is where commerce meets conversation, and all conversation (every single form of communication) involves commerce, whether it is an exchange of ideas or an exchange of hostages. Boldly put, every spoken word, every single form of interaction between or among individuals is, in fact, a negotiation."
- Douglas E. Castle
Negotiation is a dynamic process through which an agreement is reached.
Manipulation is merely a smart-alecky word for "convincing," "persuading," or (sometimes) "seduction."
Negotiation and manipulation are actually neutral terms, and merely tools.
Their power, for better or worse, for good or evil, lies solely in the hands of the wielder. Negotiation and manipulation are the two most important components of all commerce and civilization. One should master both.
My favorite area of consultative practice is in the art and science of high-level negotiations - at the board of directors level, either intracorporately (among individuals or stakeholder factions), or between two entites involved in what, in business, is analogous to dating, and hating or mating. I intermediate. I moderate. Most importantly, I communicate.
My work requires research, intelligence-gathering, frequent practice and experimentation and a technical knowledge of behavioral psychology and the dynamics of both the individual mind and the "group" or collective mind.
In my role as Chairman of TNNWC, I perform a number of different planning and managerial functions for the benefit of the Company. When I am called upon, I will also speak about or advise a client about negotiating something; more often than not, this puts me directly in the middle of the process, actively advocating the party who was prudent enough to retain my services. It is a wonderful process -- in my perspective, it is like designing, constructing and moving into a finished building. It is my passion to reach agreements.
Incidentally, there is no winner in a negotiation where an agreement has not been reached. This means that regardless of the side that I am on, once given my objectives and parameters, I must find some way to have the parties settle together. It is not a war -- it is a tricky, but surprisingly (for most unfamiliar with this type of thing) collaborative process. It involves a high level of cognitive functioning and an incredible amount of focus and de-personalization. There is no place, in my role, for my own ego.
Become familiar with the negotiation process. The more you know about it, the more that:
1) you'll realize that you have been engaged in it for most of your life; and,
2) you'll come to appreciate the delicacy and artistry which are required in order to bring parties into a sustainable state of agreement.
Welcome to my world.
Now, ladies and gentlemen, get your scrolling gloves on, and get out those magnifying glasses [apologies]...
Faithfully,
Douglas Castle
Note: This article was published (in various forms) simultaneously in Taking Command!, Sending Signals!, Negotiation - The Language Of All Business, and in The National Networker (TNNWC) Weekly Newsletter.
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Negotiation has a perjorative connotation, not unlike the one associated with manipulation. Yet, every entrepreneur, leader, corporate executive, professional, academician and consumer who communicates interactively (speaks or otherwise sends signals or suggestions) with another Human Being is engaged in both. The average individual spends most of his or her waking hours negotiating.
It is frightening to think about.
"Negotiation is the language of all business. It is where commerce meets conversation, and all conversation (every single form of communication) involves commerce, whether it is an exchange of ideas or an exchange of hostages. Boldly put, every spoken word, every single form of interaction between or among individuals is, in fact, a negotiation."
- Douglas E. Castle
Negotiation is a dynamic process through which an agreement is reached.
Manipulation is merely a smart-alecky word for "convincing," "persuading," or (sometimes) "seduction."
Negotiation and manipulation are actually neutral terms, and merely tools.
Their power, for better or worse, for good or evil, lies solely in the hands of the wielder. Negotiation and manipulation are the two most important components of all commerce and civilization. One should master both.
My favorite area of consultative practice is in the art and science of high-level negotiations - at the board of directors level, either intracorporately (among individuals or stakeholder factions), or between two entites involved in what, in business, is analogous to dating, and hating or mating. I intermediate. I moderate. Most importantly, I communicate.
My work requires research, intelligence-gathering, frequent practice and experimentation and a technical knowledge of behavioral psychology and the dynamics of both the individual mind and the "group" or collective mind.
In my role as Chairman of TNNWC, I perform a number of different planning and managerial functions for the benefit of the Company. When I am called upon, I will also speak about or advise a client about negotiating something; more often than not, this puts me directly in the middle of the process, actively advocating the party who was prudent enough to retain my services. It is a wonderful process -- in my perspective, it is like designing, constructing and moving into a finished building. It is my passion to reach agreements.
Incidentally, there is no winner in a negotiation where an agreement has not been reached. This means that regardless of the side that I am on, once given my objectives and parameters, I must find some way to have the parties settle together. It is not a war -- it is a tricky, but surprisingly (for most unfamiliar with this type of thing) collaborative process. It involves a high level of cognitive functioning and an incredible amount of focus and de-personalization. There is no place, in my role, for my own ego.
Become familiar with the negotiation process. The more you know about it, the more that:
1) you'll realize that you have been engaged in it for most of your life; and,
2) you'll come to appreciate the delicacy and artistry which are required in order to bring parties into a sustainable state of agreement.
Welcome to my world.
Now, ladies and gentlemen, get your scrolling gloves on, and get out those magnifying glasses [apologies]...
Faithfully,
Douglas Castle
Note: This article was published (in various forms) simultaneously in Taking Command!, Sending Signals!, Negotiation - The Language Of All Business, and in The National Networker (TNNWC) Weekly Newsletter.
Following are some tags, labels, categories and keywords relating to this article to get you started. If you'll just look over the list, you'll automatically open your mind to a new awareness of negotiations going on all around you:
- "earned victories" versus thefts
- acknowledging "points" for the other side
- acknowledging sacrifices from your side
- acquiring territory
- ad hominen arguments
- adult-adult positioning
- adult-child positioning
- agreements in stages
- apologizing - the power of humility
- approaching an averaging point
- balancing the scales
- bargaining chips
- behavioral psychology - factions and groups
- behavioral psychology - individual
- being clear
- being unbreakable
- bluffing
- body language
- bonding
- boredom and small print
- Braintenance! Blog
- bugs and caution
- building trust
- clarity
- coming back to the table
- communicating with precision
- concessions
- conduct
- confessions
- conflict resolution
- confrontation
- correcting or reversing a negotiating error
- courtship
- critical times
- dealing with conflicting agendas
- dealing with hidden agendas
- determining who the decision makers truly are
- distortions
- distraction and diversion
- divide and conquer
- doing your research
- dominators - how to handle them
- Douglas E Castle
- dropping hints
- emotions
- escalation
- establishing authority
- establishing goals
- establishing priorities
- establishing value
- exhaustion - wearing parties down
- exposing your own vulnerabilities
- expressing admiration for the other party
- fakes
- fast subject switching
- fear of appearing unsophisticated
- fear of loss
- feinting
- finding common ground
- finding commonality and intersection of interests
- finding the other side's hot spots
- forming alliances quickly
- frauds
- gains and sacrifices
- gestures and what they signify
- getting at the truth
- getting attention
- getting to "yes"
- getting to decision makers
- give-and-take patterns
- handling an insult
- higher authority
- how to use
- humanizing
- humor
- hypnotic environment
- instilling fear
- intelligence gathering and application
- intensive interrogation
- introducing new parties to the negotiating table
- introducing new variables
- leaving the room
- liars
- lingering resentments
- manipulation
- manners and matters of conduct
- mirroring
- misdirection
- momentum
- mystification
- negotiation
- NLP techniques applied
- objections
- objectives
- pacing
- parameters and limiting conditions
- parroting
- perceived
- perceived limitations
- perceived value
- perception versus reality
- persistance
- personality typing
- personalizing
- piecemeal victories
- posturing
- power words
- precision timing
- questioning
- rapport
- re-framing words and visualizations
- re-initiating lagging negotiations
- reaching an accord
- repetition
- resistance
- resolution
- role playing
- ruses
- saving face
- scorekeeping
- seduction
- Sending Signals! Blog
- setting the stage and the props
- shocks and surprises
- showing remorse
- sideline conversations and "small talk"
- signs and symbols
- splitting the difference
- stabilizing the chaotic
- stalling
- stepping "out of character"
- stop and go negotiations
- subliminal suggestion
- subtle "tells"
- subtleties of speech
- suppressing destructive impulses
- sustainable agreements versus "patch jobs"
- sweeteners
- tag teams
- Taking Command! Blog
- tantalization
- technology
- temporizing
- tenacity
- tenuous agreements
- testing
- the art of listening
- The Entrepreneurial Spirit
- The National Networker (TNNWC) Weekly Newsletter
- the quest for fairness
- the quest for justice
- the use of casual conversation to create new alliances
- time constraints - real
- TNNWC Management Consulting
- trade-offs
- Transactional Analysis
- trivializing
- un-focusing and re-focusing
- unite and collaborate
- VAKOG
- vulnerabilities
- walking away
- when to pretend not to have heard
- when to relent
- when to remain silent
- I win You win (abundancethinkers.wordpress.com)
- Playground Negotiations (hrmexplorer.wordpress.com)
- Role Play Exercises for Building Negotiation Skills (brighthub.com)
- Working Your Way Through Negotiations: A Guide for the Project Manager (brighthub.com)
- Strategies in Business Negotiation (thinkup.waldenu.edu)
- [From the web] Peace groups to GPH-MILF panels: "Negotiate A Political Settlement Now!" - www.mpc.org.ph (hronlineph.wordpress.com)
- The key lesson from shutdown showdown: Boehner needs Democrats (dailykos.com)
- Baucus: Social Security off the budget negotiation table (dailykos.com)
- House Democrat says budget deal "very close" (reuters.com)
- Partial Agreement Seen in Yahoo-Alibaba Dispute (bits.blogs.nytimes.com)
- Accused Somali hostage negotiator faces U.S. charges (reuters.com)
- Thomson Reuters and Union Agree on Tentative Contract (nytimes.com)
- AP Journalists Plan a Week of Action Ahead of Annual Meeting (news.change.org)
- NFL Lockout: League, NFLPA Negotiators Meet Again, Push For Deal (newyork.cbslocal.com)
- AP Union Tells Members To Stop Tweeting (mashable.com)
- Stern meets with union; more negotiations ahead (sportsillustrated.cnn.com)
- After making progress, what could go wrong and mess up NFL labor talks (fourthandgoalunites.com)
- UN says Ivory Coast negotiation was a 'trick' (eyespytheworld.com)
- Federal shutdown avoided, 2012 budget fight continues (readyfortheshift.com)
- Political Posturing Versus Honesty - Domestic And International Sabotage (douglascastle1.wordpress.com)
- The Art & Science Of Collaboration & Conversation (andrewarmour.com)
- White House releases President Obama's long-form birth certificate (salon.com)
- Huntsman's path to White House starts in China - msnbc.com (news.google.com)
- NFL urges negotiation out of courts (fourthandgoalunites.com)
- Lessons from America's last brush with default (finance.fortune.cnn.com)
NOTICE: This article is Copyright © 2011 by author Douglas E Castle with all rights reserved. It may be republished without permission provided that it is published in full, with all hyperlinks and exhibits left intact, and with full attribution given the author. This article does not contain or constitute medical, health, psychological, legal, regulatory, investment, securities, financial, tax, or any other form of professional advice -- the reader acknowledges and accepts this disclaimer. Further, the reader indemnifies and holds harmless both the author and all publications in which this article appears of any damages, claims, loss, responsibility or liability emerging from the reader’s utilization of any information contained herein.
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Every Entrepreneur, Project Manager, Leader and Small- to Medium-Sized Business CEO (or other C-Suite dignitary) must understand the difference between tactics and strategies, and learn the way to think about each. Just as importantly, each of us needs to integrate them to achieve real results and to avoid walking a needlessly random path governed by the sway of outside forces. Welcome to Entrepreneurial Business Planning - Tactics Versus Strategies - Optimizing The Blend.
Here's a preliminary explanation of the difference, and an example:
Understand the difference between Tactics and Strategies -- Strategies are the longer- term plans you make for achieving your ultimate goals and objectives, in accordance with your ambitions, desires and inclinations. You have a roadmap or blueprint to either get you there or to create the finished product.
A strategic plan might cover a span of time from several months to an entire lifetime, but its destination is where you ultimately and passionately want to be.
Tactics are short-term initiatives (spontaneous adaptations) for dealing with the impediments, complications and situations which you encounter along the path to achieving your goals and objectives. They often involve palliative measures, adjustments in timing, a slight detour from the map -- but they are merely immediate accommodations, and should never keep your ultimate focus from your goals and objectives.
The simplest analogy is in a situation where you are planning to go to a supermarket, and your ordinary route is blocked off by Police Crime Scene Investigators, a fallen tree, a picket line of anti-government protestors, an oily chemical spill, or an inoperative traffic light; while you will navigate a new route (the tactic), you will still be heading for the supermarket (the strategy to appease your hungry children who are suffering from serious Taco-Bell Gastritis/ Single Dad Syndrome).
Don't ever lose sight of strategy when engaged in a tactical maneuver. Keep your internal compass set on your destination. Occasional rests and positive visualization can be very helpful in getting you safely to your rendezvous without having you fall prey to careless mistakes, or endless, labyrinthine detours.
Blending these two tools is very much like going back and forth, looking into a telescope (strategy, the big picture, a macrocosm), and then looking into a microscope (the incremental steps needed to get there). You must switch back and forth between pragmatic detail and your vision.
Terrible, Gratuitous Metaphor:
If you are climbing a mountain, you must focus on your objective (the peak), while you constantly look down and along side you to avoid tripping on roots or being hit by branches in your path.
This constant refocusing is a necessary leadership skill. It enables you to always know your destination (and how you intend to get there in terms of your mapped path), but to change the incremental steps, as may be necessary to navigate around quicksand, crocodiles, and bandits who may be in the middle of the road.
If you are well-practiced at this, you become a powerfully adept problem-solver -- you will take many a detour, but you'll always wind up back on the main road to your stated objective, and to the successful achievement of your mission. You'll understand, viscerally, that goal attainment requires the ability to shift in and out of perspectives.
Business is inherently the solution of problems. Business is, by its nature, an obstacle course, with a prize at the end. Problems are not aberrations -- they are absolutely to be expected, remedied or circumvented, and then, if you have solved or side-stepped each and every one of them, if you've managed to maintain your most important sense of direction, you'll find yourself at the mountaintop.
Douglas E Castle
Chairman
TNNWC Group, LLC - Management Consultants to Emerging Enterprises
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Every Entrepreneur, Project Manager, Leader and Small- to Medium-Sized Business CEO (or other C-Suite dignitary) must understand the difference between tactics and strategies, and learn the way to think about each. Just as importantly, each of us needs to integrate them to achieve real results and to avoid walking a needlessly random path governed by the sway of outside forces. Welcome to Entrepreneurial Business Planning - Tactics Versus Strategies - Optimizing The Blend.
Here's a preliminary explanation of the difference, and an example:
A strategic plan might cover a span of time from several months to an entire lifetime, but its destination is where you ultimately and passionately want to be.
Tactics are short-term initiatives (spontaneous adaptations) for dealing with the impediments, complications and situations which you encounter along the path to achieving your goals and objectives. They often involve palliative measures, adjustments in timing, a slight detour from the map -- but they are merely immediate accommodations, and should never keep your ultimate focus from your goals and objectives.
The simplest analogy is in a situation where you are planning to go to a supermarket, and your ordinary route is blocked off by Police Crime Scene Investigators, a fallen tree, a picket line of anti-government protestors, an oily chemical spill, or an inoperative traffic light; while you will navigate a new route (the tactic), you will still be heading for the supermarket (the strategy to appease your hungry children who are suffering from serious Taco-Bell Gastritis/ Single Dad Syndrome).
Don't ever lose sight of strategy when engaged in a tactical maneuver. Keep your internal compass set on your destination. Occasional rests and positive visualization can be very helpful in getting you safely to your rendezvous without having you fall prey to careless mistakes, or endless, labyrinthine detours.
Blending these two tools is very much like going back and forth, looking into a telescope (strategy, the big picture, a macrocosm), and then looking into a microscope (the incremental steps needed to get there). You must switch back and forth between pragmatic detail and your vision.
Terrible, Gratuitous Metaphor:
If you are climbing a mountain, you must focus on your objective (the peak), while you constantly look down and along side you to avoid tripping on roots or being hit by branches in your path.
This constant refocusing is a necessary leadership skill. It enables you to always know your destination (and how you intend to get there in terms of your mapped path), but to change the incremental steps, as may be necessary to navigate around quicksand, crocodiles, and bandits who may be in the middle of the road.
If you are well-practiced at this, you become a powerfully adept problem-solver -- you will take many a detour, but you'll always wind up back on the main road to your stated objective, and to the successful achievement of your mission. You'll understand, viscerally, that goal attainment requires the ability to shift in and out of perspectives.
Business is inherently the solution of problems. Business is, by its nature, an obstacle course, with a prize at the end. Problems are not aberrations -- they are absolutely to be expected, remedied or circumvented, and then, if you have solved or side-stepped each and every one of them, if you've managed to maintain your most important sense of direction, you'll find yourself at the mountaintop.
Douglas E Castle
Chairman
TNNWC Group, LLC - Management Consultants to Emerging Enterprises
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NOTICE: This article is Copyright © 2011 by author Douglas E Castle with all rights reserved. It may be republished without permission provided that it is published in full, with all hyperlinks and exhibits left intact, and with full attribution given the author. This article does not contain or constitute medical, health, psychological, legal, regulatory, investment, securities, financial, tax, or any other form of professional advice -- the reader acknowledges and accepts this disclaimer. Further, the reader indemnifies and holds harmless both the author and all publications in which this article appears of any damages, claims, loss, responsibility or liability emerging from the reader’s utilization of any information contained herein.
NOTICE: This article is Copyright © 2011 by author Douglas E Castle with all rights reserved. It may be republished without permission provided that it is published in full, with all hyperlinks and exhibits left intact, and with full attribution given the author. This article does not contain or constitute medical, health, psychological, legal, regulatory, investment, securities, financial, tax, or any other form of professional advice -- the reader acknowledges and accepts this disclaimer. Further, the reader indemnifies and holds harmless both the author and all publications in which this article appears of any damages, claims, loss, responsibility or liability emerging from the reader’s utilization of any information contained herein.
About This Author: Further information regarding this author’s professional experience, expertise and service offerings can be found at ABOUT DOUGLAS E CASTLE
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