Showing posts with label Psychology. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Psychology. Show all posts

Wednesday, May 02, 2012

Individual Decisionmaking Is 90% Emotional

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Individual decision making, at least for the general population taken as a whole (and on the average) is approximately 90% emotional. if we take every matter decided upon to be a decision for statistical purposes as being equal regardless of the significance or nature of that decision, we find that the primary decider is emotion.

Even more interesting is that we tend to rationalize these emotions, after the fact, with defensively-constructed rational or intellectual arguments...these are intellectual rationalizations for emotional responses. If you wish to influence people either strike at or appeal to their emotional trigger points, and save the intellectual "supporting arguments" (things like ROI, charts and graphs, guarantees, quality, research and studies, and all academic things) for after the decision has been made emotionally.

These intellectual support items are just that -- they are tools which you have in your kit to assist the decision maker in expediting his or her rationalization of a decision.

Another important command strategy which applies to all leadership, marketing and sales is that you cannot use an intellectual argument to undo or change a decision which has been emotionally made, unless you work very, very quickly (and even then you are unlikely to win a reversal) before your quarry, constituent or client has had time to fully form his or her own intellectual fortification to protect the emotional decision already arrived at.

In these cases, introducing an element of "self doubt," while exploitative, may be the easiest route into the fortress of the foregone conclusion.

History's greatest leaders have been masterful at swaying emotional sentiment.

It is important to remember this in you role as a Commander.

In commercializing this emotional quotient and feeling-based behavior and decision making, marketers are aggressively in the process of distilling this to (oxymoron coming) the science of neuromarketing. How about that? Those faithful readers of The Mad Marketing Tactics Blog should expect to be hearing a great deal more about this

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Tuesday, November 08, 2011

Your Opinion: Exercise Extreme Caution! - Interpersonal Relationships Are Like Minefields....

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If your opinion is not solicited, try to avoid offering it -- unless it is an urgent warning that may save someone about whom you care from getting hit by a bus or shot by a sniper.

Unsolicited opinions are generally perceived by most persons as intrusive judgments, criticisms or insults, unless they are obvious warnings of imminent danger, or unless they are stated as ideas... framed as 'spontaneous thoughts'. Example: "You know what would really bring out the color in your beautiful eyes? That fedora!"

Before offering your opinion (when it is actually requested), be certain that you understand the motivation behind the person's inquiry. In some cases, it is merely a call for validation or affirmation without any real opposition or new perspective on your part; in other cases, it is an honest request out of respect for your knowledge or special expertise. In the first case, the requester doesn't truly want your opinion, so much as your endorsement.

If someone says, "I'd really like your opinion about ___________," don't answer. Instead ask, "Why do you ask?" or "Why, in particular, do you want my opinion?" If the answer is along the lines that "I've decided to...," or "I'm going to...," or anything else indicative of a strong commitment to a plan of action, or a reference to a decision already made, proceed with extreme caution. This individual is seeking your agreement, assent or endorsement -- perhaps even your reassurance.

If you disagree with this person's decision or ex post facto action, and you wish to stay out of harm's way (avoid a wasteful argument, or compromising an alliance over something unimportant to you, specifically), the only answer which works is, "You've asked for my opinion, but I'm going to insist that in a matter such as this one, that you must trust your own instincts." This is a powerful non-answer, which places the responsibility for any outcome squarely on the shoulders of the requester and which sounds (albeit remotely) like your endorsement of the requester's decision-making skills -- but it is not a false endorsement of what may ultimately turn out to be a calamitous choice. Don't be an accomplice or enabler to stupidity if you can avoid it.

The truth is not always what is sought. Your alternatives are to lie (the least desirable), or to turn the question around to a positive-sounding non-answer. When possible, this latter choice is best, especially if artfully delivered.

Sometimes, in taking command of interpersonal relationships, diplomacy, and carefully choosing one's battles are the keys to the preservation of alliances.

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Saturday, June 18, 2011

Market Research and Interrogation - Asking Questions and Getting Answers.

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Market research and interrogation have a great deal in common.

Consider this: an interrogation or "interview" is really very like a one-on-one focus group. The objective is to obtain (or confirm) information or intelligence which you either a) didn't have before, or wish to b) confirm from a predetermined reliable source in a reliable manner.

The key to the questioning process is to avoid posing questions which are leading, or which are framed in such a manner as to force  pressured, inaccurate answers from the interviewee (being polite, or trying to provide you with the answers that he or she believes will best satisfy or palliate you). The idea is to get the interviewee to speak with as little prompting as possible.

Assuming that physical torture is not an option (which it really shouldn't be, as the results obtained are, arguably, inaccurate in too many cases -- this is putting aside the obvious humanitarian issues as well -- from waterboarding to listening to an endless tape loop of Barry Manilow albums, these methods tend to stimulate the creative survival instinct in your interviewee, and produce specious albeit occasionally convincing responses).

Two things are common to most inexperienced and not profoundly emotionally-disturbed interviewees - a) they feel compelled to fill the uncomfortable silence in a one-on-one conversation with their own talking, and; b) if falsehoods or misstatements are hurled rapidly at them, they become triggered into "correcting" the "wrong story" and replace the suppositions with facts - they often reveal much more information than they had expected to offer, and more than you, as the interviewer, ever expected to receive.

Utilizing the tidbits of Human behavioral psychology cited in the prior paragraph,two techniques are most effective in order to draw an individual out of himself or herself of his or her own initiative so that you obtain the most complete and accurate intelligence. Here they are:

1) Prolonged silence - ask a very straightforward, question, and then remain silent. In the void of uncomfortable silence, most interviewees will begin to talk in order to quell the discomfort of the awkward quiet. If the answers seem to be merely "small talk" or temporizing, remain silent and continue to look at the interviewee. The question will eventually be answered if you don't re-engage in any casual banter and maintain the intensity of your demeanor as well as your silence. Don't converse. Listen.

2) Shoot out a high-speed stacatto recitation of absolutely, patently false statements. In defense, or in correcting what is perceived to be a misperception on your part, the interviewee, will interrupt you (at which point you must maintain a skeptical expression, as well as silence, as in persistent doubt) in order to "correct you." Invariably, the proferred correction will yield more information than would be required in response to your obvious (and frequently obnoxious) ploy.

Apply what you have learned above to either situation -- either when being questioned or when asking the questions. Understanding impulsive responses is important in every aspect of information-gathering and in such mundane, but daunting challenges as managing employees, operatives or teammates.

In retrospect, I might have titled this post "Management By Manipulation." But then, the term manipulation has acquired a perjorative connotation. The irony here, Commanders, is that all Human interaction requiring communication involves some element of what could be easily termed manipulation. Oh well.

Faithfully,

Douglas E Castle
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Remember: Leadership requires an understanding of Human behavioral psychology and a masterful application of that knowledge. You must understand how others think and act -- but it is every bit as important to know about your own triggers, buttons, self-limiting beliefs, insecurities, bravado and propensities to sabotage yourself.

Note: I often write about management, leadership and team-building issues in such TNNWC publications as The National Networker (TNNWC) Weekly Newsletter, The Blue Tuesday Report, and Expert Advice And Insights From TNNWC.


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